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She's on Fire
The Truth About Finding Your Voice
What's holding you back from using your powerful voice? Fear of judgment? Worry that your message doesn't matter? Today we're shattering those barriers and unveiling the secrets to speaking with magnetic confidence.
Your voice is more powerful than you realize. Whether you're terrified of stepping on a physical stage or anxious about going live virtually, I see the fire within you—the genuine desire to impact lives through your words while building a profitable business doing what you love.
Confident speakers aren't born—they're made. So let's get you MADE!
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Hey, hey, welcome back to the she's On Fire podcast, where we ignite your confidence, crank up your presence and really set your business and your life on fire from the inside out. I'm Jen, and today, oh my goodness I am giving you some real secrets to speaking like the queen that I know you want to be. So listen, I know so many of you are holding back. You may be holding back. Maybe you're afraid of what people will think. Maybe you're worried your voice doesn't matter, or how dare you are somebody you know, somebody that's wanting to speak out. Maybe you're afraid. That's what you're you know people are going to say. Here's the thing I really want you to understand. I know who you really are. I know that you want to speak out. I know that you want to confidently deliver your message. I know that about you. I know you don't want to sit on the sidelines. I know you want to be out there and impacting the world, and I know you want to be making money doing it. And again, there is nothing wrong with that. Here is the truth. Your voice is powerful, your words can create movements, and today I'm going to teach you how to step into your power and own the stage like a boss. Now the stage might be literally stepping up on stage. Maybe you're terrified of that, that's okay. Maybe the stage is virtual. Maybe you're terrified of that, that is okay, because what I know about you is that you truly want to do it, and when you have that want and that fire inside, we just need to bring it out of you. So I want you to grab a coffee, grab your favorite drink, whatever it is, and grab a journal, and let's do this. But here's what I want you to remember first this isn't about just sitting down and journaling. This is literally about understanding and taking action on it, because without action, your life stays exactly the same. All right. So the first thing I want you to think about is the energy shift that you need.
Speaker 1:Confidence isn't about being perfect. It's about being prepared and being present. One of the biggest myths about speaking whether it's on stage, virtual, whatever it is, in masterclasses, in you know, a challenge, whatever it is one of the biggest myths is that confident speakers are naturally good and that is so far beyond the truth. It's so far beyond the truth. It's so far not factual. The fact is, confident speakers practice, they prepare and, most importantly, they decide to show up with energy. They decide to show up. So before I go on stage or hit a live any of that stuff what I do is an energy reset, all right.
Speaker 1:So there's different things that I do. Oftentimes and my clients can attest to this before I hit a live, I'll slap my hands together and I'll start rubbing that energy, warming myself up, warming my body up, feeling that energy flow through my body. Sometimes I'll close my eyes while I'm doing this. There are times I'll jump up and down. I'll jump up and down, breathing deep. I'll even tell myself this is going to be the best speech delivery whatever that I've ever given.
Speaker 1:Because here's the deal If you don't believe it, your audience isn't going to believe it either. You have to shift your energy into that type of believing. You have to believe in yourself and you need to shift your energy. So I want you to decide right now that you are the most engaging, that you are the most engaging, inspiring speaker that your audience has ever heard. I want you to shift into this.
Speaker 1:I talk about in my business, with my clients, with my audience, a lot. I talk about stepping into that identity. I have a fierce identity framework that I give to people because it's so powerful to do this. So decide right now. You are the most engaging, inspiring speaker that your audience has ever heard, and I want you to step into this with me. Say it with me. I am a powerful speaker. My voice is magnetic. People need to hear what I have to say, and guess what? That is the truth. People do need to hear exactly only what you have to say. Does everybody? No, and you don't want that, right? I don't want to speak to everybody, to everybody, but there are people who need to hear what I have to say, and to them my voice is magnetic. So that's the first step in this.
Speaker 1:Next, I want you to speak to one person. All right, you speak to one person. You're going to influence many. Here's what trips people up. They try to talk to everyone. I just talked about this. They try to talk to everyone. I just talked about this. They try to talk to everyone. But the secret the best speakers talk to one person at a time, one. They're not trying to talk to the many. When I speak, I picture my ideal person sitting right in front of me, like we're having a conversation. I imagine her, what she struggles with what her dreams are made of and I speak directly to her heart and soul. I don't try to talk to 50 different people, I'm speaking to the one and this is so important. The next time you're on a live, on stage, maybe making content, making a reel on TikTok, whatever it is, imagine you're talking to your best ideal client ever over coffee. Keeping it real, keeping it personal and, trust me, the right people, they're going to feel it deep in their soul. They're going to feel that. Are you understanding this? They will feel that.
Speaker 1:And step three, or secret three and this is a big one, because a lot of people try to rush through their words. They just try to get it done because they're afraid. There's fear, right, when you're afraid, you often start speaking faster, slow down, slow down. Actually, I should say this when you're afraid, you start speaking faster, slow down, slow down. Actually, I should say this when you're afraid, you start speaking faster, and when you're excited, you start speaking faster, because those two types of emotions collide. That's why I always tell people when you're getting on stage and you're afraid, start telling yourself that you're so excited because it's the same exact type of emotion, the same feeling in your body. I actually learned that from Mel Robbins and this changed the game for me. But anyways, most people rush through their words because they're nervous.
Speaker 1:Confident speakers. They know the power of the pause. You will hear me do this a lot. You don't have to fill every single second with words. A well-timed pause it really makes your audience lean in. It adds to the weight of what you're saying, because when you give them a well-timed pause, they're hanging on your next word. They're like oh, what is she going to say? It automatically creates this response within their body and in their brain. So the next time you're speaking, pause, let it land and then hit them with the next point and watch how people pay attention.
Speaker 1:Secret four this is a difficult one for a lot of people. You need to show up before you're ready. I hear this so much, I'm not ready to do that. I tell somebody go live on Instagram. Oh, I'm not ready for that yet. Guess what I guarantee you're never going to be ready. Never going to be ready. And so it's going to be pushed down the road. Oh, I'll do it next week when I'm ready. I'll do it the following week when I'm ready, I'll do it after this. There's always an excuse.
Speaker 1:Confidence doesn't come from waiting until you're ready. It comes from taking action before you feel ready. If you wait until you're fearless, you're never, ever going to start. So the secret is do it scared, do it messy. Have some really good methods to calm your nervous system, like we just talked about for a second, a second ago, right? Instead of telling yourself I'm so scared, I'm so scared, I'm so scared, I'm so afraid, I'm so nervous to yourself, I'm so excited.
Speaker 1:Do some deep breathing exercises. Close your your eyes. Tell yourself how excited you are. Remind yourself that your words are magnetic and that you are the most powerful speaker that your people have ever witnessed before. Tell yourself that over and over again. It's so important. You can start small. Hop on you know a five-minute Instagram. Have your notes ready. Practice your speech in the mirror. This is the thing. Practice notes ready. Practice your speech in the mirror. This is the thing. Practice. Do things that increase your confidence prior to doing it, but then you have to do it. Record a quick story Every time you do this, you're building your muscle of confidence every single time.
Speaker 1:Muscle of confidence every single time. But the thing is, confidence isn't something you have or don't have. It's something you build. You have to remember this, and today is your day to start, not next week, right now. Right now. Go to the next step. Go to the next level in your confidence. Go to the next level in your confidence. Build it up. It's so crucial to do this. You are so powerful. Your words are so beyond powerful. You can create a movement with your audience when you truly step it up, when you truly start before you're ready.
Speaker 1:I hope you're feeling as pumped as I am right now, because I know the world is waiting to hear your voice. So your challenge right now is do one thing today that stretches your speaking confidence. One thing go live, share a story, practice your pitch, just start, just start, because if you don't start, it's never going to happen. And I know that is not the person that you are. You are the person. You're the wild woman. You are on fire inside and I know you want to bust out. I know that's who you truly are. So get it done right now, don't wait. All right, and if you love this episode, snap a screenshot, tag me on Instagram, leave a kind review, so we can get this really good info out to more people. Let's set this world on fire with our voices, and I will talk to you soon. Bye.