She's on Fire - The Business Empowerment Podcast

The Contract You Didn't Know You Signed

• Jen Gaines • Season 4 • Episode 42

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You didn’t say it out loud.
You didn’t write it down.
But somewhere along the way…
 you made an agreement with smallness.

To stay likable.
To stay safe.
To stay out of the spotlight just enough to avoid judgment.

In this episode of The Awakening Series, we’re uncovering the invisible contracts that have been quietly running the show — and keeping powerful women stuck in a life they’ve outgrown.

You don’t need more permission.
You need to tear up the rules you never agreed to.

This is the contract-burning, soul-freeing moment you’ve been waiting for.

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Speaker 1:

Hello, beautiful, welcome back to the she's on Fire podcast, the women's business empowerment podcast. I'm your host, jen Gaines. Today we are talking about the silent contract that you signed and is now running your life. This isn't the kind you signed with ink, but the kind you signed with conditioning, with silence, with fear and with survival. Today we're going to name it, we're going to face it and we're going to break the contract you never realized you signed.

Speaker 1:

I remember the first time I realized I'd made a silent agreement to stay small, not because someone told me to, but because somewhere along the way I decided that was safer. Safer to not be too much. Safer to stay humble. Safer to let people other people take the spotlight, other people take the spotlight. Safer to do the work quietly. And what really hit me, what broke me wide open, was when I realized that agreement didn't come from the truth. It came from fear. It came from old wiring. It came from a younger version of me that just wanted to be accepted and survive.

Speaker 1:

But the thing is, is that contract all of them outdated and it was really costing me so very much? And it's probably costing you a lot too. Here's the thing about these quote, unquote contracts. You probably never said them out loud like, okay, I'm making this contract with myself to stay small? Of course not, but they still rule your decisions. And they sound more like I don't want to be too salesy, I don't need to go viral, I'm not here for attention, I just want to help people and that's enough. I'll put myself out there once I figured everything out. I'll start selling once my website is redone and perfect. All those things I hear them all the time and I know what they mean because I've been there. Those sentences they seem innocent, they even seem noble in some ways, but underneath they're written in the ink of don't see me too much, don't judge me too much, don't judge me too much, don't abandon me, don't make me feel unsafe. And the longer you keep those contracts in place, the longer you'll live below your power, not because you aren't capable, but because you're honoring an old agreement that's expired now. This is why I'm doing this awakening series.

Speaker 1:

So let me ask you this honestly I want you to really think about it when are you still honoring a version of you that made herself small just to be accepted? Where are you following invisible rules that were really never yours to begin with. Because the thing is, is the life you're craving? The next level, the visibility, the magnetism, maybe even the leadership? It's not just about what you do, it's about what you stop agreeing to do. So I want to do a little activation. We want to break these contracts.

Speaker 1:

So, right here, right now, I want you to say it out loud with me and I want you to write this down so you can say it later on too. Get a pen and paper and get ready, push, pause if you need to. Here we go. I want you to look in the mirror at yourself. I want you to say out loud I break the contract to stay small. I release the belief that it's safer to hide. I revoke the rules I never agreed to. I will not shrink to be accepted. I will rise to be who I actually am. I'm going to say it again I break the contract to stay small. I release the belief that it's safer to hide. I revoke the rules I never agreed to. I will not shrink to be accepted. I will rise to be who I actually am.

Speaker 1:

Because here's the thing you can't sign a new destiny with hands still holding your old agreements. It won't work. It is time you step into that new destiny. It is time you step into that new identity. I'm sure you feel it when you say those things. I'm sure you feel it. That rush in your chest, that breath you just took deeper than before. That's what it feels like to start to get your power back Right now.

Speaker 1:

This can be your awakening, if you allow it, if you take the steps. This is your rewrite. Give yourself permission. You don't need to wait until the new year. You don't need to wait to make a new year's resolution. You can do this right now.

Speaker 1:

This is really the part where you stop living by rules someone else handed to you. Whether it was the girl that made fun of you in high school, the boy that made fun of you, your mother who told you to be quieter, whoever it is, someone else handed you those rules. So this is the part where you stop and the part where you start rising from the fire that's inside of you. Instead, it's time to tear up the contract. It's time to build something so much greater in its place, and you can do that. If you see other women doing it, you can do it too. You are no different, and I want you to remember that If you're not a part of the awakening, click the link in the show notes and get into it. You'll get all of these affirmations in there. Whatever you do, remember you are worth it. You are no different than the others doing what you want to do. The only difference is is they took action and they kept going, and I know that you are more than capable of doing that too, so let's freaking go.